Meeting new people can be a little unsettling; that anxiety of not knowing. What are they going to be like? Is this going to be awkward? As much as I’m able to handle awkwardness in most situations, I still wasn’t above that anxiety. So these were exactly the questions running through my head while I waited for what seemed like hours (it was 10 minutes at most) till Tochi showed up. Especially since I’ve followed her blog for a little while now and meeting someone as somewhat of a fan can be intimidating.Now there’s pictures on social media, but knowing that I myself don’t look as bomb as I sometimes do on instagram after all the strategic lighting, make up and filters as I do in person, very rarely are my expectations high. I knew she would be beautiful, but when I tell you I was literally in awe as soon as I saw her walk through the gate. I won’t rave too much about what she looks like but wow. Anyway, not too often do I meet people who I can talk about almost everything with, but Tochi was definitely one of those people for me. Even so, the theme of self-discovery was pretty constant in our conversation.“Depression”, she answered when I asked what made her start her blog. Same story. When its more comforting turning sadness into words and putting them up on the internet for possibly millions of strangers than it is talking to friends whose first instincts are to pretend to empathize or give less than needed advice when all you really needed in the first place was an ear.
“I studied law and I hated it so I graduated and I’m like, I hated this course so I know I’m definitely not practicing, so what am I going to do now?”
Now, on fashion (I suppose I should get to that) and being “trendy”. Not to say either of us are somehow above trends, but at what point do you become someone who chooses to wear something that’s the rave of the moment for the sole reason that you actually like it, as opposed to because that’s what everyone wears or wants to wear at that moment in time? At what point do you even become someone who can tell the difference between the two? Because only then can you really develop your style as an individual instead of as part of a group of mere followers.She went on to tell me how she’s leaning towards fashion design. “I think I’m now getting to the point where I’ll be comfortable making and wearing my own clothes. I think this is the year I’m finally going discover who Tochi is”. That stood out to me because we all need to come to that at some point in our lives. It can be so hard finding oneself in a society that’s so big on conformity. I’ve fortunately taken the time to evaluate myself on some of these things she and I discussed, maybe not under the best of circumstances, but at least I have. It’s always refreshing to meet people like Tochi. You guys should expect a collab real soon.
Shoes- Zara, off Depop
Hat- H&M, off Depop
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