It’s about that time again, and I’ve been meaning to talk about this for a while now. This isn’t specific to age, but it’s more predominant with us young people so I’m going to restrict it to our generation. This is about the trend in our community that paints self-confidence as a vice.
Now I understand, there are people among us who are overly cocky, and I am by no means encouraging that. I value humility. If I’ve learned anything from my dad, it’s to always be humble. But why is it more acceptable for someone to come on twitter for instance and talk about 101 things wrong with them than it is for them to compliment themselves? Humility is definitely not the same as putting oneself down to make other people comfortable.
This honestly gets me the most because in the times we live in, the standards that have been set by the media for someone to look conventionally attractive are so unrealistically high that almost no one can reach. And yes, everyone has that one thing about himself or herself that they’d like to change, but for larger number of people than you think; it goes a lot deeper than that.
It’s so unbelievably easy to fall into a state of self-hate when you don’t look anything like what the community around you would call beautiful. People struggle with such deep-rooted self esteem issues because of what they’ve learned, directly or indirectly from the world around them. A lot of the time, people will only say good things about themselves in the open as an effort of self-encouragement while still struggling to accept themselves behind closed doors.
“There is no perfection, only beautiful versions of brokenness.” – Shannon L. Alder.
Regardless of social media perceptions and the way people may think I look, I too have my own “imperfections”. Acne prone skin, cellulite, discoloration and the works. While I do the little I can to improve my appearance in little ways, why should I have to apologize for loving myself regardless?
Example. Two girls stand in front of a mirror. One of the girls saying “I need to lose weight” or “I look so ugly” is somehow totally okay. But as soon as she says, “oh I look really pretty”, it’s like, who does she think she is? Um….she thinks she’s someone that looks really pretty.
Self-love and self-encouragement are SO IMPORTANT in this kind of society that constantly finds ways to beat any and everyone down. “She thinks she’s all that”. As a matter of fact I do and why should I have to apologize for that? I refuse to be a person that constantly tears herself down for imperfectionss that I can’t change. A lot of things aren’t “pretty” to look at but that’s part of being a REAL HUMAN BEING.
Perfection is not a real thing guys, it’s a social construct used to suppress self-love and sell cosmetics. I urge you all not to fall victim to it and to allow those who choose to focus on the positive things about them to do so without making it seem as though they’re doing something wrong.
Once again, love yourselves and eachother.