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Body Positivity: How To Get Over Being Ugly

Okay so my title is a little dramatic, but it probably made you look twice so it served its purpose. But I had a few topics on my mind to “discuss” on my blog, seeing as I haven’t done one of these posts in a while. I put out a couple of them out on twitter earlier and asked you guys to vote for what they wanted to see but at the end of the day, I’m gonna do what I’m led to do.

I’ve been thinking about body image and public perception for a while especially since a lot of what I do as a blogger/vlogger involves these things. And I know many of us are probably tired of hearing about social media standards and “why they shouldn’t matter” to us. But if we’re being honest with ourselves, it matters. Consciously or otherwise, even the most confident of us want some type of validation. I certainly don’t make posts so people can NOT care about what I write or NOT like the way that I look. And quite frankly, that’s not a bad thing, don’t let anyone tell you it is.

As long as it doesn’t take over you.

And there’s definitely no one, no matter how confident, that hasn’t looked in the mirror at one time and wished they could change at least one thing. People blame media, which is correct, but even before the digital age, standards of beauty have been perpetrated in one way or the other throughout our human existence. Its perfectly normal. In a world where everyone looks different, this HAS to happen, however unfair we as humans make it. So obviously, a lack of satisfaction is simple human nature.

As long as it doesn’t take over you.

Truth is, its very straight forward and we all need to look at the larger picture. I’ll use myself as an example. I don’t have great skin, I don’t even have good skin. Thats not my fault, its genetics, its hormones and it’s a whole bunch of shit I can barely control. I won’t lie to myself and say thats not part of the reasons I wear makeup. I won’t lie and say its not the reason I facetune the pictures I post online. And I could sit here and run through a list of things I would change about myself but again, the list is endless and you cross one thing off and another appears.

And so I ask myself, would I rather take the hard route and attempt to “fix” all these things that I’ve been conditioned to think are “wrong” with me and my body or do I just do what’s easier and simply take care of myself and accept that certain things are the way they are. Because even the people I may attempt to look like don’t even look like what they see in the final products of their photoshoots. I’d be chasing an ideal that doesn’t even exist, basically mentally and probably physically torturing myself.

When you thing about it for what it really is, it truly makes no sense. By no means am I suggesting that you shouldn’t take steps to change things about your appearance. Change your hair, take care of your skin, workout, hell, get plastic surgery if you’d like. But realize that you can not spend your whole life seeking a form of perfection that no one has.

Make peace with who you are and the things that make you a real person and not a version of anything thats been photoshopped into oblivion to make money off of insecurities.

Love yourselves and one another,




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